But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Gentleness is one of the more easily understood fruit of the Spirit. Easy to understand and easy to do are not the same however.
Proverbs 15:1 tells us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Gentleness is more than simply not being violent. We can be abusive in our speech and harsh in the way we talk to other people.
Jesus told us that the meek would inherit the earth. Being gentle and meek does not mean that we are pushovers. There are times that we should stand our ground and fight for what is right.
But gentleness does not go looking for trouble. Gentle people seek to diffuse a situation instead of escalate it. Gentle words can help calm an otherwise difficult situation.
Gentleness is learned just like anything else, with practice. Before responding to a situation that would ordinarily cause an ungentle response, count to ten. Before long, it will be natural to respond gently without having to go through a cooling off period first.