1 Corinthians 7:3-5
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Yes, a part of love – within a married relationship – involves physical intimacy. While absolutely not ashamed of the three letter word beginning with “s” we’ll avoid using it here strictly in an attempt to avoid having this labeled as an inappropriate site.
The subject of numerous sitcoms has been the lack of physical intimacy in married relationships. This is no laughing matter however as this really does cause problems in relationships.
There is no rule that can state how much intimacy is the proper amount, and certainly this will vary with age as well. The important point is that there are needs in this area for both a husband and a wife. And of course, intimacy often means different things to each gender.
Even though some couples are embarrassed to discuss it, this is an important part of your relationship. Sometimes we have mistakenly made it out to be something dirty when instead it is a beautiful gift that God has given us. And it should be discussed as such.
Even though the main cause of infidelity is not a lack of physical intimacy as is often thought, it certainly can be a contributing factor. Paul says as much in the passage above. Some people have less self control than others and thus will be more likely to fall into temptation if they are lacking in physical intimacy.
This is why it is important to discuss these things, as embarrassing as it may seem. A loving spouse is going to want to meet your needs in this area and if there is something that they can do or adjust, they should want to try. Accordingly, you should seek to fulfill your spouse’s needs. This might not mean that every urge is met because of various reasons, but overall your spouse should feel that you understand their needs and seek to fulfill them whenever you are able.
As a final note on the subject, it may sound like this is just about the physical nature of intimacy but it is more than that. It involves an emotional connection as well and it’s possible that the physical side is happening without the emotional side. When it comes to meeting needs, both the physical and emotional aspects should be fulfilled.