Love is Accountable

Proverbs 12:15

The way of fools seems right to them,
but the wise listen to advice.

Hebrews 3:13

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.

Romans 14:12

So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.

We don’t really like to be held accountable.  The problem with accountability is that it leaves us vulnerable.  Not only does it leave us open to people pointing out our flaws, we are also placed in a position where we have to acknowledge those flaws.

So, why on earth would we want to be held accountable?  It’s because love is accountable.  Even though we won’t achieve it, we should want to be perfect for those that we love.  Accountability keeps us working in that direction as it sharpens us and shapes us into better people.

While it is true that you probably don’t want your boss to know your every flaw and thus don’t want complete accountability, accountability with love is a good thing.  It’s possible for this to turn into nagging if used the wrong way but accountability will ultimately make you a better person as it will give you areas in your life in which to strive for improvement.

While accountability is good with the “small” things in regard to relationships, it is especially essential when it comes to sin.  While it is certainly uncomfortable to be called out when you have sinned, the real question is who would you sooner have do it?  Would you rather be convicted of a sin by a friend, neighbor, coworker, or even a stranger, or would you rather be convicted of a sin by a spouse who loves you and won’t condemn you while convicting you.

When we hold someone else accountable, we must remember that the goal is certainly not to humiliate a person or condemn them of their sin.  Instead the goal is to correct their error and strive to help them not repeat it.  Whether we are being held accountable or we are holding someone else accountable, love needs to be the center of it while correction is the goal.

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