Take delight in the LORD,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
The idea that love fulfills dreams is similar to the idea that love encourages but it takes the concept one step further. A common expression is that “talk is cheap.” It is easy to say something encouraging; it is harder to do something encouraging. A more cynical person might even believe that the words of encouragement aren’t authentic but instead just an attempt to “do the right thing” without really meaning it.
Everyone has dreams that they would like to see fulfilled. They might be big or they might be small. They can be anything from “open a pottery shop” to “go back to school.” Or it might not be so long term goal oriented. It might be something like “go to Paris” or “spend a romantic night out without our three kids.”
We should want to see our loved one’s dreams fulfilled. It should not only make them happy to have it fulfilled but it should bring us a certain amount of joy knowing that we helped make it possible.
Of course not all dreams are fulfill-able. That doesn’t mean that these dreams should be disregarded. Instead they might need to be scaled back or broken down into more doable short term goals. Opening a pottery shop might begin with taking a pottery class. You may never be able to afford a trip to Paris but you might be able to get away for an evening at a nice French restaurant.
The idea is to be supportive of your spouse’s dreams, no matter what they may be. Not all of our goals in life are achievable and even the ones that can be achieved are not guaranteed to be achieved. Rather than be dismissive about a dream, ask questions about it. Maybe they’ve put a lot more thought into it than you realize and it is a serious goal. Maybe they’ll quickly realize that they haven’t put enough thought into it and realize that it isn’t achievable at the time. But it’s not your goal and you shouldn’t be the one to dismiss it. Show your support by asking questions, the most important one being “What can I do to help?”