Love Completes Each Other

Ecclesiastes 4:9-11

Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

Colossians 3:14

And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. 

One of the greatest things about love is that it really does help complete a person.  Often someone will refer to their spouse as “my better half” and it may be done jokingly or seriously but it is true that they are only half without their spouse.

While we are likely to fall in love with someone who has some similar interests and possibly a similar personality, we’re unlikely to find someone exactly like us.  Our differences are really what makes marriage exciting (although sometimes frustrating as well.)  If we were mostly alike, this would mean that two people would have the same strengths and the same weaknesses.  While it might be great if both husband and wife are great cooks and enjoy doing it, it is equally disastrous if neither is capable of balancing a checkbook.

This is why it is great that love completes each other and counterbalances the weaknesses in the other.  You may still both enjoy painting and it’s quite possible that neither of you can fix a car, but there will be areas where one is strong and the other is weak.  This is where marriage works the greatest.

There are traditional strengths and weaknesses that fall along gender lines as well.  Although it is certainly not a guarantee, we know what many of these are.  Some may call them stereotypes, and to some extent they are because they are not universal, but it also makes sense that God would design the genders to be alike but different.  Since women are the only ones capable of bearing children, it makes good sense that they often have a stronger nurturing quality than men.  On the other side, men are often driven to protect their loved ones and it makes sense that they are often the more physically strong ones.  Once again, these are stereotypes but they are also often true.

Whatever the similarities and differences between husband and wife, it is important to cherish the things that are in common as well as the differences.  It is the differences in particular that will complement your weaknesses and make you better rounded as a couple than you would be on your own.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *