2 Corinthians 2:10
Anyone you forgive, I also forgive. And what I have forgiven—if there was anything to forgive—I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake
1 Corinthians 13:5
Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
The dirty truth about all relationships is that none are perfect. Everyone is going to do something that hurts the one they love whether intentionally or unintentionally. Sometimes these mistakes are small and easily forgiven. Other times they are painful and hard to move on from.
Without forgiveness a relationship will suffer. The person who was wronged will hold on to their hurt and it will eat away at them. The guilty party who wants to be forgiven will continue to endure feelings of guilt that will undermine the relationship. In short, it is not healthy for either party to be in a relationship where forgiveness has not been offered.
Jesus tells a parable of an unmerciful servant in Matthew 18:21-35. It was in response to the question “how many times should I forgive?” The point of the story is that God has forgiven us far more than we’ll ever be wronged in our lifetime. We must be willing to forgive if we want to be forgiven.
This doesn’t mean that it is easy to forgive or that the pain of the problem will immediately go away. The saying “forgive and forget” is much easier said than done. But we must take the first step towards forgiveness and then continue to head in that direction. If we love someone, we must be willing to forgive them when they hurt us.
We have hurt God with our sin far more than we will ever be hurt by anyone. Remember this when you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you. But despite how much we hurt God, He not only was willing to forgive us, He offered His Son Jesus so that we could truly be forgiven for what we have done. Putting things into that perspective, no one has harmed you so badly that you can’t forgive them.