Love is Thoughtful

Psalm 139:17

How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them!

Philippians 1:3

I thank my God every time I remember you.

Thoughtfulness can be closely tied to the concept that love is kind.  If you are going to be thoughtful, you’ll think of someone and do something nice for them even when they aren’t expecting it.

Since we’ve already discussed the kindness side of this, let’s turn to the actual thought part.  Your actions are going to be based upon whatever your thoughts are.  If you think about money -worrying about it or getting ahead in life – a large part of your actions are going to be focused on money.

The same is true with love.  When you think about someone a lot, your actions are going to be geared toward them even when you are separated.  One of the sad realities of relationships is that we think about each other less as the relationship matures.  When it is new, we think about the other person often because we are just getting to know each other.  We wonder, “Do they like mint chocolate chip ice cream?”  “Will he like this perfume?”  “What if I dye my hair?”  We think about these things because we don’t know everything about the other person yet.

As the relationship matures however, we no longer have these thoughts.  We know that mint chocolate chip is their favorite ice cream, he prefers to smell a certain perfume, and your natural hair color is better than dyed.

So, if you know each other so well and don’t spend your time wondering about them, how do you train your thoughts back on the person?  The easiest and best way is to use that knowledge to your advantage and to pray for them.  You know that they have a big meeting at work today and it always stresses them out, so you pray.  You know that it is nearing the third anniversary of their father’s death, so you pray.

When our thoughts turn into prayers, it is much more powerful than simply wondering what a person’s favorite ice cream is.  Then, at best you’ll pick up some ice cream for them.  But with prayer there is not only the spiritual difference but if you’re praying about it you’ll be much more likely to remember to ask about how the meeting went or how they are feeling.  This is what it truly means that love is thoughtful.

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