Take delight in the LORD,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
There’s a song titled “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places.” While this isn’t meant to be a religious song, it is certainly appropriate from a Christian perspective. People go looking for love in all kinds of places. There are family issues that aren’t fulfilled because of an absent father or mother. There are social relationship issues because a person may be just a bit different and not fit in. And of course there are issues with intimacy because a person is trying to obtain something that can’t be found in that sort of relationship.
The truth is, every person has a need for God and only He can satisfy that need. People try to fill this need with alcohol, possessions, or empty relationships but ultimately they come up empty.
This doesn’t mean that we can’t find joy in things that are not God. God gave us so many things that He wants us to enjoy. But if we try to enjoy them without God, then they will ring empty. This is especially the case with love and relationships. We may find joy in being with our spouse but having joy in God first will enhance that joy in our spouse. If God is in both you and your spouse’s relationship, the closer you grow to Him, the closer you will grow toward each other as well.
Paul offers the key to happiness in Philippians 4. He realized that he didn’t need other things to make him happy. He never said they were wrong, just that ultimately his contentment came from God and not all of those things. Other things may pass away and there will be times when you and your spouse don’t love each other like you should, but the love of God will never go away.