Love is Not Rude

Psalm 112:5

Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely, who conducts his affairs with justice.

Luke 6:31

Do to others as you would have them do to you.

The Golden Rule is accepted as a standard for living by Christians and non-Christians alike so it should be absolutely no surprise to learn that it applies directly to love and relationships.

Love is not rude.  When we are treated poorly, our natural tendency is to snap back at someone and treat them poorly.  We want them to have to taste their own medicine.  But of course this isn’t productive.  This is not the way that love should work at all.

First of all, it doesn’t truly make us feel any better.  Instead it just feeds our anger and annoyance.  Even though we fight back when mistreated, it doesn’t rectify the fact that we were mistreated.

Secondly, being rude in response to rudeness may very well lead to more rudeness.  Everybody wants to get the last word in and so things escalate.  Being rude in response to rudeness can quickly set off a downward spiral where nobody wins.

Responding to rudeness with love will disarm a person.  While we may want to throw their rudeness back at them, showing them kindness will show them that their way is wrong.  It may disarm them and stop them in their tracks from continuing to be rude.  And even if it doesn’t it is the proper response to have as Jesus taught us to turn the other cheek even if someone strikes us.

There is more to treating someone the right way than just attempting to stop their rudeness.  By treating someone the way that you want to be treated, you set an example.  The next time they have a choice to react rudely or with self control they may remember how you reacted and were able to hold your temper in check.

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