And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
The first thing that you need to know about love is that it is impossible. That is, it is impossible without God. We are naturally sinful people. We are naturally selfish. When we love of our own ability, it is because we want something in return. Breakfast in bed is often out of duty – it’s mother’s day, out of guilt – making up for the fight last night, or as a bribe – you want to buy a boat. Why is it that “love” is so much more prevalent while dating than married? It’s because a person is trying to win another over.
Fortunately true love is not just a pipe dream. It can be accomplished with the help of God. The first thing that one must embrace to truly love is to accept that God loves them. If you don’t feel loved, it is difficult to love others. When you accept God’s love for you, it will naturally flow out of you and to others.
Love is also sacrificial in nature. It wants what is best for other people, not ourselves. Once again, this goes against our nature. We look out for number one first and foremost. Jesus set the example of sacrificial love for us by dying on the cross. You will probably never be put in a position to die for a loved one but there will be many times when you’ll need to sacrifice your time, your money, and your preferences in order to show love to someone.
The key to love is God. It would be great if we could just set our mind on being more loving but it just doesn’t work that way. Our mind must be transformed by God. Some people see a dramatic transformation in their life when they surrender their will to God. For many others there is a gradual change from selfishness to sacrificially loving. But the first and most important step toward really loving is by asking God to make you a more loving person. This means that you have to acknowledge that you need help being a more loving husband or wife.
Without God’s help, love is impossible. With the help of God, all things are possible. This is the most important thing to remember as you try to love others.